Your Envirmant Does Not Govern Your Life; Your Reponse To It Does


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As the quote above states, I can #not change the environment around me, but I can change how #it affects me by how I respond #to it. I can despair for what the situation is like, or I can try and do something about it. I can try and fight against the environment around me, or I can adjust myself and my #life to it. Either way, the atmosphere its self is not what governs my life and holds me down or helps with my success, but I how I react/respond to it #does affect my success or failure in life.

Please share #your thoughts; all thoughts & viewpoints are welcomed and wanted!

 

 

Why Hiding From A Problem Does Not Work?


For those who have to live with “Autism,” it can be and often is no matter how one deals with it #a difficult road to travel. Even for those who have seemed to have made something of themselves and “have a life” still have to deal with their autism every day of their lives. They did #not get over it or somehow “cure” themselves.

No, instead we have embraced our Autism as a part of who we are!

As I have shared in previous posts, I am currently diagnosed with “high functioning autism” which means, for the most part, I am able to function in the world regularly, but do face some difficulties when it comes socialization. These difficulties for me at least include picking up on social cues and focusing on others in social situations among a few other things.

I am currently at the point where in most situations, my autism #does not limit me as it once did because I recognize #why I have the difficulties that I do and can adjust myself and my life accordingly. Because I know of and acknowledge my autism, I know that it is not a curse, burden, etc.. but a gift.

Yes, because of my autism I have a lot more trouble communication and getting to know others than most people do; yet at the same time, I am more able to spot things in my environment that others may not or at least quicker than most do. I see connections easily. I am able to remember a whole lot of what for most people would be insignificant details #from past conversations and such. And though I have more trouble in recognizing social cues than most do, as a trade-off I believe, I am a little more empathic to other’s emotions than most other men are.

The thing is if I had not embraced my autism and acknowledged it I would most likely not have realized the benefits that I get because of my autism, but would only see the negatives associated with it. Because I would have just “seen” the negatives of my autism, and continued to have viewed it as a burden to do away with instead of working with it.

My autism is starting to really no longer be a “#problem” in my life because I no longer recognize it as such. I still have to deal with it, make no mistake, but it is no burden for me. This I believe is the key for not just an autistic person, but for anyone with a so-called “problem” no matter what it is. We need to stop seeing the “problems” life throws at us as burdens to be rid of, and more as challenges to #work with and around of.

I have embraced my “problem” as a part of who I am and as a blessing, not a curse; have you?

 

What are your thoughts and views on this topic? Please do share them all are welcomed and wanted. 

 

 

How Many Branches Does Your Life Hold?


This is a response to the one-word prompt “Branch” by “The Daily Post.”

#How much responsibility are you juggling in #your #life? How #many#branches” do you have going out from you in all that you do? We all have, every one of us more than one thing or concern in life that occupies our time and energy. At different times in our lives, we tend to have fewer than others and at other times we can tend to have more. It all depends on us as a person and what drives us throughout our lives, and of course what drives us #does change as our lives evolve.

In managing all the things, concerns and/or responsibilities that we take on in our lives because of what drives us, we tend to resemble a tree with all its different branches. Each “branch” represents for us our many different areas of responsibility, the more we have the more “branches” we have. Here inline comes the problem for us.

With trees where the number of branches one has depends on its overall size and ability to support the branches; small trees have fewer, smaller branches then big trees do. So too is it with us and our “branches,” there are only so many branches that each one of us can support depending on our skills, knowledge, and so forth.

The problem is in the fact a lot of times we tend to be trying to support more “branches” then we are really able to. We constantly complain and groan about all the work and things we have to do in our lives, yet also at the same time keep adding more and more things to do/handle.

Our problem in life is not that our lives are too hard it is that we don’t seem to know how to properly manage our “branches” of responsibilities. Until we do so, we will continue to be overworked and overwhelmed by that we do in our lives. The key to being able to manage such is to recognize and know our limits as well as to stay within them.

So how many “branches” of responsibilities do you have and is the number bigger or smaller than what you can handle?  Do you know your limit to the number of “branches” you can #hold?

What are your thoughts and viewpoints on this subject? Please do share, all thoughts are welcomed and wanted.

 

Only Games Have Restarts; Not Real Life, Or Does It?


This is a response to the one-word prompt “Restart” by “The Daily Post.”

For all those who grew up playing video/computer #games (who hasn’t in the United States) #or still plays the occasional game here or there, the “save spot” and “restart” features of those games most likely became an important aspect of use when playing. The ability to save one’s progress and then come back later and pick up where left off. Or the ability to restart the game when you #have made too many mistakes to recover from and wish for a second, third, fourth, fifth chance, etc.. at the game. These features of the video/computer game are nice to have, but I think #it can be hard to remember sometimes that those futures are #only in games and #not #real #life.

I think we tend to sometimes wish we had the “save&restart” feature in real life that we have in our favorite video/computer game/s; (I know I do sometimes).  In fact, what is the appeal to such games at heart other than as a means to escape at least for a little while our real-life issues? Yes, we play them for the adventure, action, mystique, intrigue, and so forth; but only because that is what a lot of us really want out of our mundane lives.

With all the uncertainty in our lives from jobs, future career, the economy, politics, news, and so forth; it is not only easy to be drawn into the fantasy of the “gaming world,” to “lose oneself,” but also to wish what we get in those games we could get from our real lives. In some ways, the very act of playing video/computer games is a “save/pause/restart” on “real life” because when we are playing our games we are not focusing on nor worrying about what is going on in our lives in the real world.

There is some good from this aspect of playing computer games, as a distraction from real life, real-world issues; in that it can help elevate some of the stress and lets us relax and “recharge” ourselves. The danger is in the fact that we can become too “glued” to our computer games and lose face with reality as well as what is more important (life or game life). While there is no actual real “save/restart” in real life like in the games we play; when we lose ourselves in them, the games themselves sure can feel as such for a time.

A good video/computer game is always fun to enjoy and perhaps lose one’s self in for a time, but not at the expense of our “real” lives. We need to make sure that as we enjoy those games that they do not hold us back nor confuse our two worlds.

What are your thoughts and viewpoints on this subject? Please do share them, all are welcome and wanted here.