The Difference Between Always Seeking To Improve Yourself And Not Being Satisfied With What You Have

Are you satisfied with your lot in life, with your career, income level and all that you have? Or are you currently still in the process of working to improve yourself and your place in life? The question you need to ask yourself is this. “Do I need improvement in my life situation, or am I just not satisfied with what I have?”

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In today’s world and society, we have the common problem of people increasingly not being satisfied with what they have and always seeking to improve upon their lot in life. In the process of doing so, I believe that we all confuse our efforts to increase what we have with real efforts of improvement. That is our efforts to always seek to improve ourselves have become mixed in with efforts to increase wealth and the ownership of stuff.

This mixing of always seeking improvement with seeking greater wealth and not ever being satisfied with what one has in life is a huge mistake and at the very root of being part of the problems facing us in today’s world. To always seek to improve one’s place in life and to believe that one’s self always has room for improvement should never be confused and mix. They are two totally different concepts!

The first is seeking at its most basic level only to secure one’s living and living standards while they live in this world. The second is the belief that no matter one’s skill set, knowledge, or “where one is in life” that there is always “room for improvement.” It is also the belief that not only is the always room for improvement in one’s self and life but that we all should seek to improve ourselves and reach our full potential.

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The problem is that the two concepts are repeatedly confused and taken as one. People tend to conflate the need to always improve one’s self with how well they are doing in life as far as their careers/jobs and how much money they make or how much “stuff” they own. This tends to lead to unsatisfied lives because when we combine our seeking to improve our place in life with improving ourselves, we create in ourselves a constant need for “more and more.” We also stop seeking improvement in our selves/lives and instead seek the unattainable perfection.

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We then in our constant pursuit to try and satisfy ourselves and our need for more become ever busy and on the move with no time to enjoy life and the simple things. However, when the two concepts are separated and in their proper places. When our seeking to improve and secure our place in life is just that and separate from our need always to try to improve upon ourselves which is just that, our lives and society in general moves along a whole lot smoother. It can be argued I believe that the concept and problem of “greed” is largely the result of the combination of the two concepts. When they are separate, we are more able to be satisfied with what we have in life and our place in it. Oh, we will still seek improvement both in ourselves and in our careers and such, but there is no longer “that urgency” to it all.

What are your thoughts and viewpoints on the matter? All opinions are welcomed and wanted. 

 

 

The Existence of Fraud In the Admittance Into Elite Universities Eludes Another Problem In Our Society: The Problem With The Perceived Need For Higher Education In Order To Get Ahead

The News media and blogosphere filled with talk of the fallout of a college admission cheating scandal breaking last week in which wealthy parents are accused of paying bribes to make sure their kids get into an elite college such as Georgetown, Yale, Stanford, University of Texas, University of Southern California, and UCLA. This alludes to a bigger problem other than the fact that it is becoming an increasing belief that the only way to ensure the success of one’s kids it to not just get them into a college but one of the so-called elite colleges.

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Architecture of the student city of Cambridge, beautiful view of England, September 3, 2017

The belief that nothing less will do and if one’s kids do not get in then they are doomed to failure. While there are several things wrong with this view other than the fact that it is false, the scandal as I said alludes to something else.

That something else is the too much importance we as a society place on the going to and attaining a college degree in the first place to achieve financial and career success in life. For decades now our society from top to bottom has put a considerable emphasis on the importance of attaining a college degree to get a good paying job and have a successful career and life.

There is just one little problem with placing so much importance on achieving a college degree to meet any real success in life. The truth is that college is not for everyone nor does everyone need to get a college degree to find success in their life. Yes, a college education is important it is not the be all end all that we as a society have put it up as for so long.

Skills are also important, besides the option of “higher education” to get ahead in life there is also the option of trade schools or even on the job training for some professions. A lot of businesses will indeed higher promising candidates that don’t then have the required skills or knowledge necessary for the job required and will train them for the job.

If we as a society did not put so much importance on the “need” to have “higher education” in the first place to get ahead in life, then the chances of there being a cheating scandal where parents feel the need to cheat and bribe to make sure their kids end up in a good college in the first place. There is only a perceived need to have one’s kids attend an elite college because of the perceived certainty that college is the only way to success and a good, well-paying career in life.  Going to college is a great experience to have along with the education that doing so represents but it is not always what is best for everyone.

 

 

 

 

 

Dealing With Tiredness From Busy Life: How To Better Manage Your Time

First of all, I want to apologize to my readers/followers for my absence lately, the last few months. I have just been a little overworked and have not had time to sit down to come up with and write topics for this blog here. But things are better now and hopefully back on track.

Time is something that seems to always eludes us when we need more of it and drowns us when we want less. There are countless methods “out there” to allow us to manage our time better, some better than others and some not so much. Time still eludes us no matter what.

The Best thing to do is to make and keep up a regular and constant schedule.

Once you set a schedule, you need to keep to it with discipline and not deviate from it too much if at all and if you do return to it ASAP! We have problems with the time available to us only when we do not stick to and support our set schedules to the “ninth degree.”

Another vital element of better managing your time is to have some flexibility in your schedule so that if and when you do deviate from one thing or another on it for whatever reason, that deviation will not mess you up too much with the rest. At the same time do not take the flexibility of your schedule as an excuse to deviate a lot from it. Even with said flexibility, any deviation should be avoided as much as possible. The flexibility is there only help you to support your schedule even when you from time to time deviate from it not to urge you to do so.

The worse thing that you can do for your time management is to set a schedule, maintain it for a time but suddenly you deviate two or three times and then another two or four, and suddenly your program is all messed up, and you are struggling to keep up with everything.

One last thing and one of the most important things that you can do to manage your time better is to take time from your busy schedule for yourself. Besides needing enough time to get all your responsibilities taken care of, you also need time to relax, recharge, and enjoy yourself.

 

What is a life full of work but no “play?” We all need to be able to enjoy our sleeves just as much we need to get things done. Otherwise, if all of our time is full of just work but little to no fun time for us to enjoy we tend to “burn out” at some point and can no longer keep up our busy schedules very well if at all. Personal relaxation time is a crucial part for managing one’s busy schedule and the time available for everything in it.

To not have to fight with “father time” and your schedule, you need to stick to it and deviate from it. You also need to make sure to have time set aside for your own personal “me time.” The best organize schedule in the world would be great and all but will do “Jack” if you do not take time actually to relax as well and to enjoy yourself. Time is indeed an elusive thing, but it only causes you any real trouble when you are not consistent in your maintaining of your schedule and you do not take time to have fun as well as to work. You do those two things, and you should have “all the time in the world!”

Please Share your thoughts & viewpoints on this subject, all such opinions and views are wanted and welcomed! 

 

 

 

Your Envirmant Does Not Govern Your Life; Your Reponse To It Does

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As the quote above states, I can change the environment around me, but I can change how affects me by how I respond it. I can despair for what the situation is like, or I can try and do something about it. I can try and fight against the environment around me, or I can adjust myself and my to it. Either way, the atmosphere its self is not what governs my life and holds me down or helps with my success, but I how I react/respond to it affect my success or failure in life.

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To Change My Life, I Must Take Responsibility

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As you read the quote above really think on it for a second and what it really means for anyone in if taken seriously. It says that no matter what problems, challenges we are facing in life, have faced and will face it comes done what you and in our struggles do during our battles. If your life is not going so well, then “get up and do something about it.” No one will do it for you, yes you may get help, but in the end, that help will do nothing without you.

Please share your thoughts; all thoughts & viewpoints are welcomed and wanted!

 

 

Good Habits And Bad Habits; How To Tell The Difference and Why They Matter​?

Habit – a settled tendency or usual manner of behavior, an acquired mode of behavior that has become nearly or completely involuntary

What are your ; what are your habits? Do you know which are which? We all have patterns, some like brushing our teeth, taking a shower once or twice a day in mornings evening, or even what times of day we have our meals. All of these are examples of habits that we may perform day in and day out without much though if any put into doing them. We also tend develop both useful and bad habits; yet do we which is which?

Good habits are those small repetitive things that we regularly do over time and don’t pay attention to our doing of them. lead to good results and longterm behaviors over time, such as brushing one’s teeth every day in morning and at night before going to bed, which helps protect us from getting cavities and losing our teeth. Or working out at the gym or going for a jog every day in the morning not only helps us stay in shape but allows us to start our day off on a high note with momentum for the rest of the day.

Bad habits on the other hand, as the name suggests, are just the opposite and are those small repetitive things that we do on a regular basis without much thought. They lead us down a spiraling path of self-destruction that negatively impacts our lives and sometimes even those around us. A perfect example of a nasty and destructive habit is smoking. Now I am not talking about the casual smoker of Sugars or even cigarettes that only smokes every so often and rarely at that, no what I am talking about is the one or two pack of cigarettes a day habit (i.e., addiction).

The one or two pack a day habit is the perfect example of a bad habit that starts as a small thing done regularly over time but then adds up and spirals out of control into self-destruction. We already know about the long-term health consequences to lifetime smokers, but it is a lot more than just that. Smoking a pack or two a day is a costly ($) habit. The average cost of a pack of cigarettes is $5.51 with the most expensive being $12.85. Let’s see; there are 365 days in a year, 365 x 5.51 = $2011.15 for one year worth of smoking on a pack a day at the cheapest cost on average.

According to the CDC about 25.3% of adults who live below the poverty line smoke. Think about that right there, the destructive habit of smoking could (and most likely does) very well be attributing to poverty in the United States. You take out that habit and bingo that is (if your addiction was the one pack a day) automatically $2011.15 in yearly savings. That can go a long way of improving ones financel lot in life.

Learning to save your money and spend wisely is the actual key to getting more wealth. If you look at almost any financially well-off/rich person/people throughout history and in today’s world, I guarantee that has played and continues to play a significant role in their wealth management. Wisely saving and managing one’s money is an excellent example of a good habit that leads to positive results.

So, good habits are those little things done regularly over time that leads to positive results in one’s life. Bad habits are just the opposite leading to negative consequences for the individual and in the case of smoking society as well.  Makes you think does it not; on just what small habits you and I may have that are either leading us to succeed in life or down a destructive path does it not? Darren Hardy in his book “The Compound Effect does an outstanding job of further exploring this very topic and showing how we can better manage our habits.

So what are your thoughts and viewpoints on this ? What are your good and bad habits? Please do share them, all are welcomed and wanted!

 

 

 

 

Taking A Vacation Reminds Us To Enjoy Life

Vacation  period spent away from home or business in travel or recreation, a scheduled period during which activity (as of a court or school) is suspended, a period of exemption from work granted an employee

The Summer season has long been known as the time where most take time off from their work/jobs to take a “” with family and/or friends for a few days or a week or two. But why do we do so?

What do you mean why, we take a vacation to spend time with family, reconnect with friends, and recharge our minds and bodies form all the constant work and stress we get in jobs and daily grind of .”

Yes, we take a vacation for all of those reasons, but again why? What lies underneath the reasoning of all those reasons and definition of vacation above?

The answer, the fundamental reason why we take time out of our lives every or nearly every year is so we can actually life and not just grind through it. We need vacations in our lives to remind that life is to be appreciated and not just plowed through. The reason we spend most of our daily lives “working our backs off” to earn a living is so we can actually take enjoyment in our lives.

As stated in the above reasons we also take vacations to rewind, reenergize, and restore ourselves from the daily grind of life, yet doing so helps us to better take enjoyment out of our daily lives year around not just on vacations. As some studies have shown vacations do help improve both our mental and physical health.

Our reconnecting with friends, spending more time bonding with family and other reasons given for vacations above are all by and through our reenergizing and restoring our minds and bodies and remembering to take enjoyment out of life. So this Summer if have not done so take a vacation with either family or friends or both, even if it is just for a couple of nights at the beach. No matter how big or small the vacation you take, you and your life will be better off. Take some time to enjoy life and have fun!

So what are your thoughts and viewpoints on this subject? Have you been on vacation yet or are you getting ready to? Where and what was/is it? All thoughts and viewpoints are welcomed and wanted here!

 

Being Too Quick To Leave An Event

This is a response the one-word prompt “Abrupt” by “The Daily Post.”

When you attend social/community events, do you tend to be one of the first to towards the end? Are you one who is to drop whatever you are doing at a given time and start on something else? I have been guilty of both.

For me at least, I attribute this to my autism because of which I have more trouble in social situations than most do. Thus, when going to small informal social events, tend to be one of the first to leave when the “dies down” because there is only so much time my mind is able to focus on just social interactions.

Despite this, I know there are times when I am perhaps a little quick to leave event, (even though that event is pretty much close to over, with people just making light conversation). While I know it is time for me to leave, that I have reached my limits I do still have a little regret for seeming to rush out at the “end.” The best thing that I can do in the future is when leaving an event that is “winding down”  I can at least make sure I don’t “rush” out.

I can do this by making one last round to all the people there (or at least those I had talked to if a pretty good size group/event) to say a few more words and get some last minute quick conversation or two in. By doing this I make sure that my leaving is a little more “natural” feeling instead of “rushed.” I can’t really control when my mind wants to stop interacting with others (when it already was working overtime to do so for awhile), but I can control how I leave as a result.

What about you; have you face a similar situation? How do you plan to or did you manage to handle it?

Please, do share your thoughts and viewpoints on this subject. All are welcomed and wanted.

Be A Friend To The “Cranks” In Your Life

This is response one-word prompt “Crank” by “The Daily Post.”

Is there someone that you come into regular if brief contact with that are just never in the “mood”  and really have anything nice to say to anybody. I think we all at least once in our lives have come across one of these “” and we are never quite sure how to deal with the person.

Usually, when we look a little deeper we tend to find that the “cranks” in our lives do not behave as they do “just because” but that there are actual reasons behind the behavior. Any number of reasons that prevent them trying to connect with others. The best thing to do is whenever you see the person is just as a starting point give them a friendly greeting and move on, but keep doing this every time you see the person.

Eventually, hopefully, this will “break the ice” at some point and those greetings will turn into small conversations which may then turn into a friendship of shorts and before you know it, you are no longer dealing with a “crank” but a normal person. Which they have always been, the “crankness” was always just a cry of help; the person needed a . So why not that friend whenever you encounter a so-called “crank.” You will begin to make the world a much better off place as a result. It also does not take much if any effort on your part but the impact pays “big dividends.”

So what are your thoughts and viewpoints on this subject? Please do share them, all are welcomed and wanted. 

To Have a Glimmer of Hope

This is response the one-word prompt “Glimmer” by “the Daily Post.”

How important is it to ” in tough situations? Is it actually encouraging and helpful or is it really damaging in the long one? These are questions that people have struggled with forever. On the one hand, “hope” does seem to allow us to get through our challenges in life by focusing our attention less on the bad situation/possible outcomes and more on something positive that gives us reason to “push on.”

Yet “hope” can indeed be damaging if those positive outcomes do not materialize. We then will “lose hope” and become even more demoralized. Although I would say that the danger here lies not so much in “hope” but in reality “false hope.” Wheres “hope” can give us something to hang onto that encourages us to “fight on” despite how bad the situation may appear; it never does so by “magically changing” the situation we may be facing, only how we perceive it.

Before getting “hope” we already had the “tools” and ability to “get out” but our “despair” prevented us from seeing that. With “false hope” we are given something positive to hold onto, but when we really don’t have the ability to make things better. So the problem with “hope” is not that there are times when we can get “too much” it, but that we can confuse “false hope” for “real hope.”

To have real hope in our lives, at our “deepest lows”  is to the have the “tools” needed to “get out” at our disposal and the “vision, courage, and drive” to make use of those tools. “Hope does not give us anything new that we don’t already have, merely a reason for us to make better our situation.

So what are your thoughts and viewpoints on this subject? Please do share, all are welcomed and wanted.